It’s funny. I’ve got a few digital friends who are female. I’ve never met them face to face, but they were brave enough to contact me via myspace or facebook and not in a way that is stalkerish. We tend to chat on rare occasions and often times it ends up being about the guys they’re dating or maybe about the things I’m going thru. It’s interesting to get a perspective on what you’re experiencing from someone else. Especially when you’re wanting the opinion about an issue that involves someone of the opposite sex.
In a way, I suppose myself and these digital friends are mutual psychologists to each other. We lend an ear/eye seeing as it’s mostly typing. And we relay what our responses would be or how we’d react to something.
Today it was a friend by the name of Jennifer. I’ve never met her face to face, but she’s a sweetheart of a girl. Spent time in Florida when we first started chatting. She loved the music and was interested in getting me to Florida to play. She’s since moved and has had a couple of serious relationships. Turns out she’s in one right now. With out getting to gory about it, she’s got some parallels to things I’ve been dealing with in my own head. And like some other recent chats I’ve had with other friends like Mur, and Claire. They’ve all told me pretty much the same thing.
When you start getting answers like that, that are all common. Well you pretty much believe you can trust what you’re hearing and what you think. Even if it’s damn fucking hard. It’s hard when you want to see someone and you can’t. It’s hard when someone wants to see you and they can’t. I know I was asked by another friend Karin, what I think about long distance relationships. I told her they’re flat out difficult. Hell, sometimes in the same city relationships are hard.
That was a whole lot of the basis behind my CD Practical Insanity. That’s the stuff that says things are out of sorts. Then there’s the times when things are clicking and flowing. That’s when you’re happy and stuff is working. I’ve got that vicariously thru a friend right now. He and his girl are having one thing after another fall right into place for them. It’s incredible how cool it is and I’m happy for both of them as I know both of them. In fact, it’s about to get a whole lot more interesting for them in a couple of days. I’ll speak up about it more after the moment occurs.
Thinking about things I’ve learned in the past two weeks it’s brought some intense meaning to a phrase that is the title of a song by Dire Straits – Love over Gold. As I sit here listening to it now, I’m really taken in by the sincerity of it. How can one not be? Mark and his band have created some unbelievably great music. But the metaphors they’ve got here right from get go easily show how delicate we are when we’re bolding going somewhere we’re scared to go. It’s all so perfectly crafted in the music, the words and the melody. That’s the beauty of music. Don’t ya think?
How’s your digital lifeline of friends? What do you do for them? What do they do for you?