I was thinking about something as I woke up today. It had to do with a conversation I had fairly recently, within the past week. I was told that a dynamic with a friend hadn’t changed. When in reality parts of it had. Whereas parts of it had not. One of the things I noticed this morning is that there’s a disconnect between what is said, what is meant, and what we do. When we’re in sync as people, those three things never to come into question. But if a person is conflicted or confused then chances are one or more of those things won’t sync between them and others. My brain probably thought of this subconsciously due to my recent excursion to see “He’s just not that into you.”
I suppose what happens is the logic gets skewed. The idea of protecting a friend’s feelings becomes more important than being honest. Which is an odd thing since most people hate being lied to. Probably why I tend to either ask a lot of questions, or tend to shut up. If I have nothing of value to say, I tend to go silent. Watch out if I’m interested or have a value because the questions and conversations will come.
In that respect, I will let things hang out, I will say things, mean them, and follow thru with the actions to do them. I don’t hide. I tried it once and it led to problems that didn’t make me feel good. I suppose that’s why I have a hard time understanding when others feel compelled to color the truth, say something they don’t mean, or say one thing, then do something completely different.
If there’s a song that speaks volumes on this type of thing it’s Say by John Mayer. The moment I heard this song I realized it was one of those songs where I had wished I wrote it. Not because it became a hit, but rather because of the meaning within the song itself. It doesn’t hurt that I dig the vibe of arrangement too. From the opening chords and the simplistic nature of the progression. That’s what makes it work so well. The truth is simple. Doesn’t mean we can always handle it well, but it is simple.
Do you always mean what you say? If not, why?